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Tuesday, October 28, 2008
erstwhile acquaintances to lifelong friends •
One small problem with talking openly is that people find out too many things that they wouldn't know otherwise; without actually having to spend time to get to know the person in concern. Sure you have to know about a feller's history to get to know him, but you don't really get to know a person just by talking about stuff, that's only the half of it.
Personal things that people normally only find out after being friends for a really long time, sticking loyally through thick and think to slowly build up that silent connection and understanding; it's all coming out too much, too often in this society that it sometimes can get ugly. People whom you don't really know, who don't really know you, get to know things that matter to you, and who knows what happens then.
The whole trouble with this wishy-washy new age desire to sit down and talk about one another and the relationship is the product, at least to some extent i believe, of that unreasonable need to cut things short, to scrimp on the time put into really getting to know a person. Maybe sometimes we really need to stop and consider that it's possible that sincere attempts to find out about people in this way can be quite mistaken, if we mean to be peple who can really say they have many close friends, rather than too many acquaintances who simply know far too much more than they ought.
Still, often things aren't really all that simple. Life is fast-paced and we're all too aware of it, nobody will really turn away a sincere kindred spirit as long there's hope for something more than just another one-time connection. After all, as they say it's so often the case that we go through it all touching so few people, so seldom in such tiny ways only. It's always nice for everyone, to stop and tell one another that we're not alone.
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